Empowering women: pregnancy and motherhood

So I have finally decided what I wanna do with my life. Something I feel very confident AND passionate about.

So before I tell you, let me tell you a story of my past 2 years

So, I started looking at colleges and stuff when I was a junior in high school. Actually, at the beginning of my junior year… and I started to think about what I wanted to do. And for all my life the area I have wanted to work in has always been the medical field. From being a nurse practitioner, to a psychiatrist, to a psychiatric nurse, to a pediatric nurse, and the list goes on. Well, I decided after a lot of looking that I really LOVED Bryan College of Health Sciences in Lincoln. I still love the college, they are great. So many awesome benefits. I attended a week long career camp there the summer of 2015. It was from 8am to 4pm everyday for a week and I also loved it but it opened my eyes. So so so much. I realized that the medical field has so much more than I realize.

Anyways, I applied to that college because I was set there. Until earlier this year I decided to save some money and get my Associates in Nursing at a community college. (At Bryan, I could of got my Bachelors in Nursing in 4 years… usually that takes 6 years). Just to save money I decided to do that, and that’s what I am doing.

I told myself I need to chill out for awhile on where I wanna go with my nursing career because it stresses me out since I have to always be on top of things.

Well, I chilled out for a while, but here I am, at it again

I have been spending a lot of time on youtube watching pregnancy and birthing vlogs. Love them. SO beautiful. They make me cry sometimes.

So that is an area I wanted to work in, but I don’t want to work as a midwife or labor and delivery nurse because to be honest… it’s too much schooling for me, I just don’t want to be in school forever (4-6 years isn’t forever but still, too much for me).

so I started thinking about being a childbirth educator, a postpartum doula, and possibly a lactation consultant.

Yes, that’s a lot of things and I will be working on all those, if I get them all, for around 3-2 years. They are certification programs and it’s an area I feel so passionately about. But that’s just the thing, I want to go to school and learn about something I LOVE to learn about and something that interests me. In my heart, God is telling me this is where I belong. 

So often, when many women hear the word “birth” they automatically associate the word with”pain”. Not that I have a baby and have been through labor before, but I strongly believe, along with many others that have actually DONE this, that with the right mindset labor can be a good experience for women. I believe that all women should be able to have that opportunity to have a great labor experience. Yes, labor is painful. But when we are in pain what do we do more often than not? We tense up. We get stressed, and actually doing that increases the pain which again increases our stress level. If we can allow our minds and bodies to accept the pain (contractions), then the pain will ease up. I also believe we all perceive pain differently, therefore our labors and births will be different. No labor is the same, which is why I want to encourage woman to do what they think is best for them and their body. Birth should be a very empowering thing to women, and not something that scares us.

motherhood rant: lets start empowering women

It truly makes me sad inside when I hear someone talk to a new mother about how she’d better be prepared for long sleepless nights, screaming babies, stress, crying, etc. all these totally negative things about motherhood. Or about how she shouldn’t have kids because it takes up a lot of time in your life, etc. I know all those things are totally true and will happen, but it saddens me when you have mothers telling a new mother all these negative things which probably scares the crap out of her. Like I said, I know all those things will happen when becoming a new mother but that is just one of the many beautiful parts of motherhood. ALL THE CHALLENGES. You’re putting every ounce of your energy into this tiny little person because you sheltered this tiny human in your belly for 9 months, you felt every movement, every kick, every pain, all of it. It’s all apart of motherhood. It is all beautiful. Even if you don’t think staying up for three hours at 1 in the morning trying to get your screaming baby to sleep, at the time is beautiful, at some point you should know that it is. Because it is all part of the gift you’ve been given to raise this little baby into a wonderful young man or woman. We need to start empowering women when it comes to pregnancy/birth and motherhood. Not scare them and make them think they just made a huge mistake, ESPECIALLY if she wasn’t trying to get pregnant and wasn’t planning to.

I have found an area I am so excited to learn about. I am excited to start empowering women.

One thought on “Empowering women: pregnancy and motherhood

  1. Sooo encouraging. I’m one of those who doesn’t want to be pregnant, don’t want to give birth or have anything to do with it.
    The hole thing is a horrible scary thing in my mind.
    Yes I would love my own child some day . If God’s willing.
    I’m proud of you for going after your Love of study, love to make a difference in Ppls life’s

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